We Can Help
SOBS Cumbria is one of 60+ self-help support groups across the UK, where you can meet with other people who have been bereaved by suicide. They provide an opportunity to listen, to share, to gain understanding and to connect with others.
SOBS Cumbria has three groups: one in West Cumbria (which meets in Whitehaven), one in North Cumbria (which meets in Carlisle) and one in South Cumbria (which meets in Kendal) led by volunteers who have been bereaved by suicide themselves. They typically meet once a month and last for around 2 hours. There is no set structure to the session – people are free to talk and listen as they wish.
We know it takes courage to come to a group. You won’t have to talk if you don’t want to and you don’t have to come again – you don’t even have to stay for the whole session if you decide it’s not for you. But most people return after their first meeting and find that over time, they gain the confidence to speak about themselves. After a while they may also find they can offer support to others. If you come to a group but decide that it is not the right thing for you at this time, you are welcome to return at a later date when you feel ready.
You can find out where your nearest group meets by contacting John on 07572 975 721 or Karan on 07896 703 757 – they will provide meaningful support and help you decide if it is the right thing for you to try. They will give you directions to the meeting place and they will look out for you when you arrive and make you feel welcome.
While we serve people who have been bereaved by suicide in the county of Cumbria, we know that there are currently no SOBS groups in North Lancashire or South Scotland, so we do ask you to contact us if you are from Cumbria's surrounding areas - you will be made welcome regardless of where you live.
We regret that we cannot provide direct support you if you are under 18, but there is help available here.
For frequently asked questions about attending a group, please click here and scroll down the page.